4.1.1 Directing Care & Asking for Assistance

Louisiana Statewide Transition Project and Louisiana: Healthy and Ready to Work Fact Sheet Series

 

7/28/99

I. WHY IS THIS IMPORTANT?

Many young adults say that they would like to be independent. However, independence is a very vague goal. If one were to ask most people to describe what it means to be independent, responses would probably relate to the idea of self-sufficiency. In reality, very few people are truly independent. Virtually every person depends on others to assist and/or support them in at least some daily tasks. Moreover, doing a task oneself is not always the most efficient way of achieving goals. Therefore, perhaps independence is not the accurate description of what young adults hope to achieve. Rather, striving for interdependence will allow young adults to take an active role in working towards their goals, calling on the assistance and/or support of others when needed in order to help attain these goals. This is especially important when young adults require assistance with hygiene and personal needs. By knowing how to direct their own care, young adults can exercise more control over their lives.

 

II. KEY POINTS

There are many skills that young adults who will be directing their own care will need. First, young adults must know with which tasks they need assistance and/or support. By conducting a personal needs assessment, they can identify these tasks and compile information about them to share with those individuals who will be providing the assistance and/or support. For each task, the young adults should list the type of assistance/support required, the level of assistance/support required, and the amount of time needed to complete each task. By having a clearly defined set of tasks that is shared ahead of time with the person providing assistance/support, young adults can avoid confusion or misunderstandings.

Next, the ability to communicate effectively with others is critical. Young adults must be able to communicate with those individuals assisting/supporting them in order to get what they need. Communication must be clear, precise, and assertive. Young adults must take responsibility for making their needs known and for providing feedback to those providing assistance and/or support to them. However, expressing needs clearly is not the only way to effectively communicate. By listening carefully to what the other person is saying, young adults and those individuals assisting/supporting them can also avoid possible misunderstandings and confusion.

Finally, young adults must be comfortable with themselves in order to direct their own care and/or ask for assistance. It is not easy to ask for and accept personal care from another person. Mainstream Magazine (Polette, 1997) asked several people who direct their own care to offer suggestions to make the process easier. Young adults may find the following suggestions helpful:

·        Try to be confident and comfortable with your body. This will take time.

·        Be patient and relaxed. This will alleviate some of the nervousness that the person providing assistance or support will feel.

·        Be clear when expressing needs, but be reassuring at the same time.

·        Try not to have a friend provide the support or assistance needed with personal needs.

Many young adults hire Personal Care Attendants (PCAs) to provide support and/or assistance with personal needs. For more information on PCAs, see the fact sheet 4.2.0 Personal Care Attendants.

III.          ROLES/NEXT STEPS

Student/Young Adults:

The ability to accept assistance and support from others can give young adults control over their lives. Young adults should conduct a personal needs assessment in order to identify and define their personal needs. They should make sure that those supporting them in their transition to adulthood know about these needs and help plan to get these needs met.

Communication skills are critical when directing care and asking for assistance. Only by expressing needs clearly, listening carefully, and following up afterwards can young adults be sure that their needs are heard, understood, and acted upon.

Self-advocacy and self-determination skills can be very helpful when others provide assistance or support with personal needs. Young adults must learn how to articulate what they want and/or need and also know how to advocate for themselves to get it. By learning and practicing self-advocacy and self-determination skills while still in high school, young adults can gain the experiences needed to exercise maximum control over their lives.

Families:

Families must realize that most young adults want to be as self-sufficient as possible. It is important to remember that the role family members play in care giving will change as the young adult gets older. Families can help young adults move towards their goal of self-sufficiency and interdependence by encouraging them to take a more active role in directing their care and asking for assistance.

Families should encourage self-advocacy. Families must recognize that young adults need to develop skills that will enable them to make things happen. By encouraging young adults to speak for themselves and to make decisions for themselves, families can better support their sons/daughters reach their goals of self-sufficiency and interdependence.

Families should ensure that personal needs and hygiene are addressed at meetings during which the transition to adulthood is discussed. By helping the young adult express future assistance/support needs to those helping them plan for the transition to adulthood, families can help assure that appropriate actions are taken to enable him/her to be self-sufficient and interdependent.

Agencies:

All agency personnel involved in transition planning should support young adults in their quest to be self-determined and interdependent. By listening to young adults and respecting their thoughts, opinions, and dreams, agency personnel can help young adults advocate for themselves and reach their goals. Local education agencies (LEAs) and adult agencies can offer self-advocacy/self-determination training to young adults. These skills are very useful when directing care and asking for assistance.

When requested, all adult agency personnel should attend Individualized Education Program (IEP) meetings at which transition to adulthood is discussed. LRS counselors, OCDD personnel, and others have valuable information about services offered or programs available (including PCA services) that can help young adults have their personal care needs addressed.

IV.          REFERENCES

               Myers, April M. (1998). Personal Assistance Services [On-line].

New Hampshire Self-Determination Project (1998). Frequently asked Questions about Self-Determination [On-line]. Available: via the Internet at http://www.state .nh.us/sdp/faqs. html

Polette, Lisa (1997). Private matters: When you lose control over basic bodily functions, how do you cope with having someone else helping you? Mainstream Magazine, December 96- January 97 Ed. [On-line]. Available: via the Internet at http://paraquad.org/private.htm

Resolution On Personal Assistance Services Passed By Participants Of the International Personal Assistance Services Symposium Sponsored by the world Institute convened September 29 to October 1, 1991 in Oakland, California, USA [On-line] Available: via the Internet at http://soeweb.syr.edu/thechp/pasres.htm